Digital Kids: Why Mindful Screen Use Matters

by Christa Hines on February 7, 2018

Digital Kids: Why Mindful Screen Use Matters

The statistics are alarming.

  • The rates of depression and anxiety are skyrocketing among our youth.
  • More kids report feelings of loneliness.
  • Teens who spend more than three hours a day on an electronic device are 35% more likely to have at least one suicide risk factor.
  • Girls, in particular, struggle with body image issues as they dedicate hours to trying to capture the “perfect” selfie in an endless pursuit of likes.
  • Teen suicide increased by 46 percent in 2015 compared to 2007.

Source: Jean Twenge, Ph.D., author of iGen

What is going on?

Jean M. Twenge, Ph.D., and author of iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy—and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood (a must read for parents), points to a correlation between the rise of smartphones and social media around 2011 and the decrease of in-person interactions among our youth since then.

As a species, humans are biologically programmed for in person social interaction. When we spend time with caring friends and family, our brains and bodies are flooded with reward chemicals and feel-good hormones. These chemicals keep us healthy and help us manage stress. Overall, we feel happier and more relaxed.

Social media can’t offer the same biological benefits that face-to-face interaction can, which begs the need for moderation. Our brains simply don’t respond to screen interactions in the same way we respond face-to-face. We may experience short bursts of the reward chemical dopamine while playing a video game or while attracting likes on social media, but instead of feeling satisfied, the dopamine bursts are like a drug, making us crave more.

That’s not to say that social media is all bad. Many kids who are active on social media also have a fulfilling, supportive social life offline. Social media is entertaining, and it offers kids fun ways to connect with friends and family who live far away. It enables them to interact with peers who share their interests. And they have an opportunity to express their individuality, creativity, humor and points of view.

But heavy screen users don’t develop the essential social skills that will help them develop resilience, the ability to carry on conversation, manage conflict and build self-confidence. Without these important skills, kids will struggle in multiple aspects of life, from interviewing to relationship building. And because they are unprepared, many of these activities will create anxiety and fear.

What do you do?

Banning screen time isn’t the answer. Rather, take a practical approach that keeps screens from taking over your family’s life.

Avoid giving screens to kids under the age of two. During this developmental window, babies and toddlers are gaining valuable speech and language skills that they learn from you and other caretakers.

Get kids involved. Research shows that kids who are involved in extracurricular activities (music, scouting, theater, sports, etc.), religious activities, or volunteer work are less likely to experience depression. If your teen is old enough to work, encourage a minimum wage job which will help them learn how to interact professionally and confidently with customers and an employer.

Model and establish firm boundaries. Create rules and boundaries around screens that your entire family follows (including you). For example, all electronics are turned off and plugged in to a central charging station by 9 p.m., or no electronics behind closed doors.

Make digital free time fun. If dinner time is screen free, play interactive games like trivia, Mad Libs, riddles or conversation games. Check out chat packs or make up your own like Would You Rather? or Two Truths and a False.

Teach kids mindfulness techniques. Get kids thinking mindfully about screen time. Talk to them about how too much screen time can affect heathy brain development and interfere with other activities. One great resource is the book Timmy’s Monster Diary: Screen Time Stress, by Dr. Raun Melmed, a developmental pediatrician. This children’s mindfulness chapter book shares tips for managing screen time in an entertaining way. (My 10-year-old read this book in only a few hours—and gave it a thumbs up). It also shares resources and tips for parents and creates a gateway for meaningful conversation between you and your child.

Teach social skills.  From the time your child begins to talk, you can help them work on social skills. Check out my book Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World for tips and strategies.


Three Ways to Bring More Joy into Your New Year

by Christa Hines on January 4, 2018

Three Ways to Bring More Joy into Your New Year

The new year is just beginning and maybe you’re already wondering how you’re going to crush that lengthy list of resolutions you made. The hard truth is we can’t create lasting change in our lives if we aren’t having fun in the process or enjoying the fruits of our labors. Even wild animals take breaks from hunting and sleeping to play!

This week, I’m sharing links to three articles that I wrote that will help you kick off 2018 with optimism. Wishing you and your family a year full of blessings and happiness!



Many of us set intentions, goals and resolutions each year, but in our quest for redesigning or upgrading our lives we forget one crucial element —to celebrate each success along the way. Celebrating makes working toward our goals more fun. And if we’re having fun, we’re naturally going to create a life that we love.

In my article in the January issue of Vibrant Life Magazine, “Celebrate Everything: 3 Reasons to Add More Celebration to Your Life”, experts share why celebrating matters and how little celebratory rituals can infuse our lives with more joy.






Speaking of joy, do you ever wonder what the keys are to a happy family? While many of us work hard to provide for our families, it’s really the little moments of connection throughout the day that make all the difference to a family’s level of happiness and to a child’s resilience in a fast-paced world. In this month’s issue of KC Parent magazine, check out my article “Happy Family, Happy Life” and learn the eight simple secrets of happy families.





Look on the Bright Side



Negativity and stress are contagious, but so are emotions like positivity and joy. If you’re seeking bright ideas to help you bring home more happiness, even during tough times, check out my article “New Year, New Attitude: How to Tap More Joy in 2018”, which is in the January issue of Emerald Coast Parent magazine. Find out how simple tips like a happiness list, a gratitude practice and creativity can help. 


Creative Connection Tip: Host a Craft Party

by Christa Hines on December 15, 2017

How about hosting a craft party for your next Moms’ Night Out? 

I’ve attended three craft parties since October. Two were at friends’ homes and another was at a local winery. Before you dismiss this idea out of hand simply because you don’t consider yourself crafty, I’ve found that women who claim to have the least creative ability, seem to have the most fun at these events. 🙂 

Craft parties offer a light-hearted opportunity to laugh at your own imperfections while exercising the creative side of your brain. You might just surprise yourself!

Since the materials are all provided for you, along with basic instructions for those who prefer guidance, you don’t have to overthink the process. You can follow the posted instructions or follow your creativity wherever it leads.

This type of event is also ideal for attracting friends who tend to avoid large gatherings, which can be too intense, intimidating or overwhelming to someone who prefers one-on-one or small group conversation. The focus becomes the craft and conversation can easily flow from there.

Here are a few ideas for craft parties:

Invite a local artist to facilitate the party. Artists will charge a nominal fee to cover their service and the materials. You can either have participants pay up front or pay when they are finished with their project. All you need to do is provide the space, beverages and some yummy snacks to nosh on. 

Choose a Pinterest project. Participants will either need to bring their own supplies or rsvp and pay a fee for the materials which the host gathers. The host provides food and drinks. Examples of Pinterest projects include bath salts, dream catchers, tile coasters, journals, signs and more. 

Host an ornament party. Purchase a variety of ceramic holiday shaped ornaments or glass ball ornaments that participants simply paint and decorate. Provide examples of completed projects, as well as, materials like paint brushes, paints, glitter, sequins, ribbons, glue and any other craft items you have laying around the house. Don’t forget the paper towels and water cups for paint brushes. Set up tables and chairs around the room. Cover the tables with craft paper or plastic to protect your furniture. And don’t forget to turn on some fun tunes!

Create space for a vision board event. Vision boards can be created on poster board, in sketch books or in journals. You simply cut words and photos from magazines and paste them into a collage. Let your intuition guide you as you work. Don’t second guess, just cut and paste and see where the project takes you. To plan such an event with friends, schedule an afternoon or evening at the beginning of the month or new year. Invite participants to bring their own art supplies, stacks of old magazines and poster board or sketch books. Have extra magazines and materials on hand like feathers, beads, glitter glue, paints to help inspire your guests. Either have your friends bring potluck items or provide food and drink.

Attend an event outside the home. Gather a few friends for a moms night out at a local Paint and Sip studio or look for other venues that host craft nights like hobby stores. We have a winery that hosts wine cork craft events throughout the year as part of their wine tastings, which is fun too. You pay a fee up-front which covers the wine tasting and the craft. They provide the venue, the materials and the wine. Anytime you don’t have to clean your house is a win for all!

Exercising your creativity is a practice in self-care. It can be meditative, playful and a wonderful antidote to stress. And when done with a circle of friends, the process can be especially fulfilling.

Have you ever hosted or attended a craft party? What did most enjoy about it?


Dear readers,

Sometimes we all take life a little too seriously, especially around the holidays. I know I do! Between those long (mysteriously quiet) lines snaking through the post office, drivers teetering on road rage and shoppers losing their—well, you know—I decided I needed to add some levity to my season. Frankly, I was starting to get a little grouchy. In case you’re feeling the pressure too, here’s a poetic little parody I wrote to help ward off the Grinch. Happy holidays! 😉 

May the Grinch Not Steal Your Christmas

There they go. Those folks alight with their bright holiday glow.

Lightheartedly humming and singing, they had their Christmas decor up before Thanksgiving.

Why they’re impossibly merry, I snarl and sneer, feeling down right weary with their holiday cheer.

Why are they so happy and carefree? Is there something wrong with me?

Maybe my “shoes are too tight”. Maybe my “head isn’t screwed on just right”. 

Buried under a pile of messy ribbons and wrappings, I wonder and sigh at all of their neat holiday trappings.

Every year I try. Every year, I wonder why.

How much is enough? Why is this so tough?

But no one hears my whine above the din. I search for a sign that will help me win.

“There must be some way to quit this self-imposed hell!” I yell.

But how? Is it too late to start now?

I puzzle and puzzle and puzzle some more, until my befuzzled puzzler is quite sore.

I know! I’ll make a list of those nasty little “should-dos-but-don’t-really-want-tos”

Those are to blame for my holiday blues.

And if anyone dares to ask, they’ll be charged with the dreaded task!

A wicked grin lights up my face as I pull out a piece of paper without haste. I lick my lips with glee…tee-hee-hee!

I line up the offenders all in a row and choose which one will be the first to go.

Take that!

With a strike of my pen, a slender, but deadly axe of inky blue, I slash and murder that list of ne’er to-do.

Exhausted, I sit for a bit.

I feel something. What is it?

Why, that’s my sour grinchy frown turning upside down.

“All is not lost!” I shout.  Time to tackle the “have-tos” that lurk about.

The gifts for Jackie, Johnny and Sue. Those are the ones that I rue.

I search high and low, I hunt and I…whoa… what’s that I see? It’s Etsy!

A harvest of artists and crafters peddling glittering bling and vintage plasters.

With a click of my mouse, I’ll soon have a few chic gifts coming to the house.

Then there’s that holiday toast I agreed to host.  It’s the cooking and cleaning I dread the most.

I nervously drum my fingers. What do I do about these sorts of zingers?

With a tearful groan, I reach for a tissue, feeling all alone as I consider the issue.

“Wait…Get a clue, you! I’ll pick up prepared foods and hire a cleaning crew too!”

With a giggle, I clap my lap and jump to my feet. I’ll get to see my friends without missing a beat.

Christmas can bring cheer far and near. I just needed to know how, my dear.

To thine own self be true, make it a holiday that’s just right for you.

‘Tis the season for friends, family and spirit. I shall not fear it.

And that’s my silly tale of how the Grinch didn’t steal Christmas comes to an end, my friend.

See you around the bend of a glorious new year, complete with everyday miracles and more holiday cheer.

May you celebrate what matters most and remember the reason. Best wishes to you for a happy holiday season!


Thanksgiving Day is only a week and a half away. While you may be busy planning the big meal, having a few fun activities up your sleeve once Thanksgiving dinner is over is great way to make the holiday extra special. In my article published in the November issue of Kansas City Parent magazine, families share a variety of fun ideas about how they like to spend the holiday after dinner is done. And these are all wonderful ways to grow closer as a family.

Click on the cover of KC Parent to go to my article “Dinner’s Done, Now What? 13 Ideas for Post-Thanksgiving Dinner Fun” article:









What are your family’s traditions for after the big dinner? 


Creative Connection Tip: Start a Cooking Club

by Christa Hines on October 25, 2017

Photo by Chinh Le Duc on Unsplash

For those who love to talk about food as much as they love to cook and eat it, a cooking club can be a creative and enticing way to connect with other like-minded culinary fans or individuals who want to hone their food prep skills.

Here’s how to start a cooking club:

Theme. Choose a theme that can help your group focus on what to prepare for each meeting. As your group gets in the groove, you might switch up your theme each year. Side note…don’t make the theme too complicated, especially if you have novice cooks or you’ll risk chasing them off.

Ideas might include:

  • Ethnic cooking
  • Healthy cooking on a budget
  • Meals that can be prepped in 30 minutes or less
  • Vegetarian cooking
  • Recipes from celebrity TV chefs, cookbook authors, bloggers or cooking magazines
  • Pinterest recipes
  • Seasonal/local ingredient sourced dishes
  • Ingredient specific…Each month choose a specific ingredient that everyone includes in the dish they make

Group size. To build group cohesiveness, keep your cooking club to a manageable number, like, between six and 10 members. One reason people return to a group is they develop a sense of camaraderie as they get to know each other. Smaller numbers give members an opportunity to share stories, build trust and swap tips in a relaxed setting. It’s just harder to build that same sense of cohesiveness if numerous people come and go.

Plus, a smaller group is more likely to hold each other accountable for being there. When we know we’re expected somewhere and we’re looking forward to seeing the other members, we’re more inclined to make it work with our schedule.

Scheduling. Set up a Facebook group, GroupMe app, group text or an email chain to coordinate get-togethers. Choose a day of the week and time that generally works best for everyone. Decide how often your group will meet—usually once a month or every six weeks works best for many busy moms.

Making it work. Before each gathering, have your group members sign up for different categories like beverage, appetizer, soup/salad, main entree and dessert. Each friend brings their dish to the gathering along with recipe cards to hand out.

Everyone takes a turn explaining their dish, perhaps sharing what inspired them to make it, what changes they made to the original recipe, what the preparation was like and how they would score it. You might rank a meal based on the difficulty of gathering ingredients, issues during preparation, taste and kid-friendliness. Then everyone eats!

Use social media. Take photos during the gathering and post them to your group page. If you don’t want to hand out recipe cards, include links to each meal on your page. In between face-to-face meetings, share recipes and cooking ideas with each other.

Holiday tip. Host a Secret Santa exchange where everyone swaps an inexpensive cooking gadget that you each consider an indispensable part of your kitchen.   

Focus on fun! Don’t worry if your meal is a disaster. That’s real life and your friends will understand! Besides, they might have some tips for making it work better the next time. Focus on the conversation and the opportunity to spend time with others who share your interests.

Do you have a cooking club? How do you make it work?


But What Do I Say? 10 Conversation Starters for Moms to Help You Connect with Confidence

The most difficult part of going to a social gathering where you won’t know anyone is managing the awkward small talk. That alone pushes most people to just stay home. But making face-to-face connections is an important way to get to know people better, which is harder to achieve online alone.

When meeting new people, look for things you have in common which will make you more likable to the other person. Avoid pointing out differences (i.e., “Oh, I hate reading books”; “Yuck. I don’t like that kind of food”; “You liked that movie? I thought it was awful.” etc.) And dress in a way that fits with the people you will be meeting. Clothing and accessories can make a statement—just make sure it’s the one you want to make.

Here are 10 conversation starters that will help you connect more deeply with other moms:

  1. What are you working on right now that you are most excited about?
  2. What is something exciting that’s happening your life right now?
  3. What do you love about being part of this group? (or if they’re the new person: “How did you learn about this group?”)
  4. How do you know the host?
  5. Tell me about your kids.
  6. (If it’s near the holidays) How does your family normally celebrate the holidays?
  7. (If you’re coming up on winter/spring/summer break) Do you have any vacation plans this year?
  8. (Fall) My kids are trying to come up with Halloween costumes. Did you like Halloween as a kid? What was your favorite costume? What will your children be dressing up as this year?
  9. We are still getting acquainted with this town. How long have you lived here? Do you have any recommendations for family friendly outings or family friendly restaurants?
  10. That’s a cool class ring. Where did you go to college?

You can learn so much about people simply by asking them about their favorite leisure activities and interests. And they’ll have fun talking to you too.

Need a little extra help? Check out the free Social Superhero chat bot software that the Science of People came up with. The bot sends you conversation starters when you’re stumped, tips, social dares and even jokes to your phone.

Do you have a favorite conversation starter? Please share it with me!


Foster Empathy to Help Prevent Bullying

by Christa Hines on October 5, 2017

October is National Bullying Prevention Month. 

Want to prevent bullying? Empathy is the key.

Kids who are high in empathy are less likely to bully. You can begin teaching this skill from infancy. Unfortunately, fewer kids are learning this valuable social skill. Researchers have discovered that the levels of empathy among college students has taken a nose dive over the years and some describe an “epidemic of narcissism”.

Here are simple ways to raise more empathetic children:

Read together. Books are a wonderful way to build empathy skills at all ages. Both fiction and nonfiction books provide us with an opportunity to experience a story and another person’s life through a protagonist’s eyes. Story is a gateway toward helping us grow more sensitive to the challenges others face.  Here’s a list of books for children that helps spark conversations about empathy.

Label emotions. Begin labeling emotions from the time your kids can talk. Playdates are an excellent opportunity to build empathy skills.

  • “Your friend seems sad. What can we do to cheer her up?”
  • “I can tell you are upset right now. Do you want to talk about it?”
  • “That was such an awesome goal that Tina made! Let’s go give her a high five.”

Interview a family member. Teach your kids to ask family members questions about their personal stories. For example, your child might ask their grandparent what a particular holiday was like for them while growing up. For example: What is one of your favorite holiday memories? What is something you are most proud of in your life and why? Your kids may learn about hardships that they might not otherwise have heard about, and how their loved one overcame them. If you have the family getting together for Thanksgiving, place conversation starter questions under their dinner plates as a simple and fun way to segue into sharing family stories after the meal.

Display photos. Include photos in your home of family members, including those loved ones who are no longer alive. Tell stories about these family members and the types of hardships they endured. Talk about the traits you admired about them and why you miss them. 

Volunteer. Find ways for your family to contribute to those in need. By role modeling your caring spirit, your kids will be more likely to think about ways they can help others too.

Adopt a pet. Adopting a pet from a shelter or rescue organization can help kids learn the value of helping an animal in need. Even if you don’t go the rescue route, the simple act of caring for any animal is a valuable lesson in empathy and responsibility. But…P.S….if you’re not a fan of the “cool frog” that your kids found and want to keep in your house, explain how much the frog’s family is going to miss him if they take him away. (empathy+!) 🙂

Watch movies. Check out this list of movies from Michele Borba, Ed. D., author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World, which she shares on her blog. 

Choose a social issue to explore. For older kids, who are learning about the many complex issues our society faces, encourage them to delve deeper into an issue. They can read personal stories, various news sources, books and learn how a particular issue impacts lives.

Discuss kind acts and why they matter. Point out news stories that highlight people helping other people. Ask questions like: What is something kind you did for someone today? How did you help someone?

Make the online world kinder. With social media, it’s become easier for kids to engage in bullying without having to look their victims in the eyes. Ask thoughtful questions for them to consider like: “If you share that post or like a post that makes fun of someone, does that make you a participant in the bullying?” To help guide your kids before they post online, teach them to  T.H.I.N.K.: Is it Thoughtful? Is it Helpful? Is it Inspiring/Informative? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind? 

Walk in my shoes. For middle school kids, I thought this “shoe” is a clever and creative empathy building activity that an English teacher does with her students.  Here’s the link if you’d like to check it out. “You  Do Not Know Me Unless You Have Walked in My Shoes.” 

Teaching and modeling moments of empathy in everyday life will help your child grow more sensitive to the world around them and help them be better friends to others. And that’s what the anti-bullying message should really be about.


Creative Connection Tip: Turn on the TV

by Christa Hines on September 28, 2017

My friends and family know that I have a special obsession for Outlander, a historical fiction/fantasy book series authored by Diana Gabaldon that Starz turned into a fantastic mini-series recently.

I love sharing articles, swapping memes and discussing the show with friends both online and off who love it as much as I do. For me, it’s a welcome retreat from real-world problems. Plus, it’s a fun way to connect. 

Want to make some new friends as we head into the colder fall and winter months? Popular television shows can offer a built-in sense of community through the course of their seasons. Consider the cult following for shows like “Game of Thrones” and “This is Us.” People are hungry to discuss the plot lines and characters with each other.

Back in the olden days when everyone watched “Must See TV” on Thursday nights or the Monday night soap dramas, we’d rush into work the next morning to swap opinions and thoughts about the show. Some people would even have watch parties at their homes for season finales. (I wonder, do people do that anymore?)

Television shows, like books, are a great form of escapism from the daily grind. Nowadays, people gather around the virtual water cooler to discuss the highlights and share critiques. Many shows have online communities on social media created specifically for the show’s fans. A recent research study published in the National Communication Association’s Critical Studies in Media Communication found that “these online communities give women a significant degree of group identification as they self-reflect and swap opinions with others about the storylines of the TV shows.

With everything happening in the world and on our own doorsteps, many of us are feeling anxious, stressed and disillusioned these days. Why not tune out the real world for a little while and escape into your favorite TV show along with a community of online fans? You’ll not only come away feeling more relaxed, you’ll find common ground and a sense of belonging that we’re all craving right now. Check around online for your favorite TV show’s online community. Facebook and Twitter are great places to start.

What is your favorite television show?


Six Ways to Help Kids Use Social Media in a Healthy Way

by Christa Hines on August 23, 2017

By age 10, many children already have social media accounts on sites like Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Snapchat, even though these sites require that users be 13 or older. If you’ve spent any time on social media, you know that it can have an influence on mental wellbeing–both positive and negative.

While many of us jump online as an entertaining distraction, too much social media can invite feelings of inadequacy, anxiety and depression. As adults, most of us can recognize when it’s time for a break. But if you’ve ever tried to get a child off of a video game, you know that most kids don’t have a strong sense of limits. Given the opportunity, my kids would play video games from morning until midnight!

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics,  kids who spend too much time on social media are at risk for mental health issues like depression, anxiety and distorted body image, which can lead to eating disorders. Like many adults, they can easily fall into the trap of believing that other people’s lives are better then theirs. Furthermore, exposure to negative news, alarming photos and videos, as well as toxic individuals can heighten feelings of anxiety, fear and hopelessness.

The good news is there are ways to guide our kids toward healthy social media consumption that will help them create a more well-rounded, fulfilling life.

Define your boundaries. Besides depression and anxiety, the more time kids spend on social media, the more problems can arise from invasions of privacy and sleep deprivation to cyberbullying. Establish family rules around when and where electronics are allowed in your home. Involve your kids in the discussion. Role model healthy electronics use by following the rules you create. Create a charging station where everyone’s devices are turned in by a particular time each evening.

Talk about social media. Remind your kids that what’s happening in their friends’ social media lives isn’t the complete picture. Social media posts are  simply snapshots of people’s more complex lives–sides of themselves that they choose to share. No matter how beautiful the selfie or enviable the status, everyone has their own set of problems they’re dealing with.

Consider if your child is really ready for social media. Read up about the different social media sites that your child wants to join. Common Sense Media is a good resource. Be aware that many of these platforms have age limits for a reason, depicting subject matter that your child may not be developmentally ready to handle. Consider your child’s personality. Do they tend to be impulsive? Do they understand that nothing they post is private? How well do they communicate with others via text and email? How will you stay in the loop? Are you willing to check in regularly and have discussions about smart online decisions? Will they talk to you if they see or experience something that bothers or worries them?

Discuss privacy. Make sure privacy setting are in use and that your kids only friend people they know in real life. Learn everything you can about a platform that your child wants to join. Join it first to see what it’s like. Some apps don’t have strong privacy protections and can open the door for strangers to message them. How will your kids handle those types of messages if you permit them to use these sorts of apps? Discuss the type of personal information should they never share online. Remind them that anything sent through messaging apps or posted online can be shared outside their network. A question they might ask themselves before posting: “Would I want Grandma (or my favorite teacher, etc.) to see this?” Set up restrictions on their phones that require a parent to enter a password before they can download an app. This way they will come to you first to discuss the app they want and you can decide together if it’s a good idea.

Take a digital sabbath. Choose a day of the week when your family unplugs from social media and the online world. This is an opportunity to simply be in the present and pursue personal interests without worrying about the rest of the world, other than the people who matter most to you in the here and now. If this is difficult at first, plan ahead. Invite another family over for an early dinner. Go on a family hike or bike ride. Take your child shopping or for an outing. Make it a family game day with indoor or outdoor games. Arrange for a neighborhood barbecue.

Strike a balance. Encourage and push your child to get involved in activities at school. Outside of school, help them discover activities that give them a sense of purpose, personal satisfaction and that nurture their self-confidence. They’ll begin to develop friendships around shared interests so that when they do go online, they’ll be less willing to put up with obnoxious, mean-spirited individuals and focus more on attracting positive, uplifting people into their online universe.